Walking your path and staying true to yourself - even if people say it's ugly, stupid, not safe enough, not good enough, not whatever the fuck enough, or even wayyyyyy too much. LOL! Everyone will have their freaking opinion... That might be great or not (unless you're a racist, homophobic, misogynic, antisemitic, sexist, abusive, or in any other way a disrespectful hate-spreading and harming human, well, then I hope you'll have a big moment of realizing how harmful that is - not only to others but also yourself and stop that shit!).
Okay, let's start at the beginning.
I went to see my godchildren and my goddaughter seemed grumpy and she didn't want to tell as at first what happened. Then she shared with us, that some other girls at school, told her, that her painting is ugly and she doesn't know how to paint. Her mum and I shared stories with her on how we've experienced that in the past and how we kept creating because there will be always miserable people that did not learn how to deal with their inner world and then have to drag others down too as they dispose of their heavy emotions.
Then I remember a story. I was 16teen and in the art class, we had first to *perfectly* draw an apple tree and then draw a hand. The teacher did not only tell me that my drawing was not good enough but (and that's the thing that pissed me off the most) is that she started drawing onto my painting and removing what I've painted with a rubber bell! WHAT?! Well, that's super disrespectful and boundaries crossing.
How I've handled it at 16? I threw the drawing and the pens on the floor and told her that I'm not going to paint anymore because of this and set with crossed arms on my chair starring at her.
I told this story to my friend and that I wasn't sure if this is a great inspiring story as LOL might not be ideal to keep throwing your drawings at school but she said that it is inspiring because I KEPT CREATING. In all those years, I never stopped creating and I did not care. I had a vision and I went for that. Sometimes slower, sometimes faster. And the thing is my creations did mostly not harm people (LOL my phase of being a mean fashion faux-pas-blogger was def. harmful, stupid, and not so open-minded but I'd say I've outgrown that shit) and it was not about it being approved or confirmed by some kind of "successful" regulations. No, it was me, having an idea and then acting on it.
And creation is not only art as we think of, like painting or drawing, it can be from the way you choose to live your (love) life to where you live to what work you want to do, to how you cook your food to whatever you feel passionate about and creating a brighter world - even if it seems just for your own world, like decorating your bedroom the way it feels good for you, whatever others say. Or your choice of having or not having children. Of shaving your head and wearing a mini skirt at 70. Becoming DJANE at 85 (lol that's my idea:D) or writing a book on the art of hanging art on your walls.
Who cares if it brings you joy and does not add harm to this freaking planet?
Honestly, if you create for yourself, that's no one's business. Nor is any other life choice that is affecting only you. Life is colorful. Life can be lived in many different ways and yes, it's time to say YES in Switzerland to marriage for everybody!!!
It's 2021, if you're not aware of certain things finally shifting, then good luck on that painful waking up. If you want to create, go do it. If you think you need permission, let me give you one right now and right here for all the lives you'll live, have lived, and live currently: You're allowed to listen to yourSelf. Go for that spark, paint your wall pink or go learn how to dive. It's okay. Keep doing and don't get stopped by people's fearful (often not, in reality, experienced) fearful stories and rigid life concepts.